One of my favorite people in life is the legendary Caddyshack actor, golf enthusiast, and comedian Bill Murray. The laughter and good times he’s provided has taught me the value of happiness. But that’s only part of the lesson Bill has imparted onto me. Bill Murray’s comedic insights have a philosophical quality to them. None more than his observations on relaxation as it pertains to our performance in life. Behold, the most influential to my life doctrine on just being better, care of Bill Murray, “The more relaxed you are, the better you are at everything: the better you are with your loved ones, the better you are with your enemies, the better you are at your job, the better you are with yourself”.
Stress has become the unfortunate and unavoidable byproduct of our modern lives. We are wound tighter than a two dollar watch trying to satisfy the demands of everyone in our lives but ourselves. When did self-care become a luxury? Why is it not a priority to enjoy our passions, to make time for them? The intensity we manufacture through frustration and desperation to fulfill the expectations of our lives manifests as the stress that leads to wasted time and poor health.
So what’s the solution? Golf, of course! Even a man who judges his game on the number of balls he loses finds release on the course.
Golf. The game, the experience, the camaraderie, the challenge of the course. There is nothing I’d rather do. Unfortunately, I have been a victim of the demands in my life, so I haven’t had the time to work on my drive, or much else with respect to the game lately. Sound familiar?
Let’s refer back to the words of the great Bill Murray, “The more relaxed you are, the better you are at everything…” Self-care is not a luxury, it is a necessity. It is imperative to make time for your passions, for the things you enjoy, because it makes us better. We perform better at work, we have more to offer our loved ones when we are satisfied with our lives. Meeting expectations and responsibilities becomes less of a chore and source of stress knowing that your tee time is right around the corner.
I am a native New Yorker recently transplanted to the First Coast, more specifically, World Golf Village. Yes, that’s right...another typical New Yorker, ingrained with stress and impatience. But, my relocation was made with a purpose. To restructure my life around my passion. To be more RELAXED. To enjoy simpler things and my family. To be better.
The thing about New Yorkers is they often say they want to get out, but most of them never will. Prior to our departure we were met with incredulous remarks and disbelief. How could we leave behind the hustle and bustle of Manhattan? You can keep the financial district, the traffic and commute to work. As Oscar Wilde said, “I don’t want to earn my living; I want to live.”
So, here I am, a two minute drive from the World Golf Hall of Fame. A position with Elite Golf Experiences, allowing me to build my new life around the game and industry I love. And a newfound sense of satisfaction, knowing that I can have both. I can follow my passion and find success. Work doesn’t feel like work when you love what you’re doing, what you’re building.
We have to show up in life. We have to do everything that we do as adjusted human beings to lead a happy, productive and fulfilled life. So why not do it relaxed? Apply the relaxation and purpose you find in golf to the rest of your life to yield the most positive result. In conclusion, I’ll let the great Bill Murray finish another one of his most perfect thoughts, “As I once said to one of my brothers, ‘This is your life, not a rehearsal.’ Somewhere there’s a score being kept, so you have an obligation to live life as well as you can, be as engaged as you can. The human condition means that we can zone out and forget what the hell we’re doing. So the secret is to have a sense of yourself, your real self, your unique self. And not just once in a while, or once a day, but all through the day, the week and life. You know what they say: ‘Ain’t no try, ain’t nothing to it but to do it.’”
VP of Business Development, Elite Golf Experiences